From the Sunday
report indicates that email relationships can be far more
than normal dating. Women are most likely to find a potential
online, with 72% admitting to having had an online romance,
to 52% of men. The report also found that 33% of all online
relationships led to a date."
often our problem in finding dates and compatible mates is that we
donít run into enough people everyday.
Most people meet their dates through contacts with common
friends or co-workers, or their hobbies and social groups-karate,
volleyball, etc., or chance meetings at a bar or night club . When you
are single and looking, you are doing well if you are meeting someone
interesting to go out with every couple of months.
Internet dating changes all that. You date with ten times the
frequency and 10% of the effort.
of online personal ads to get to the audience you desire is
quite different from saying a pickup line in a
bar about how good someone looks or asking a
reception girl or waitress for
her telephone number.
The good news is that
it is far easier and less stressful than real
life situations. Guys, you know well that it is intimidating to go up
and talk to a woman in a bar. With online dating,
there is no such anxiety. The women who want to know you will write
you back. Ladies, yours is the same story. You are tired of waiting
around for someone who meets some criteria you have (e.g. wants kids,
or likes traveling). By putting such things clearly in your profile,
you don't need to reject the guy who is going about asking out every
human female form he sees or knows. It saves the time and energy of
both parties. You upload your ad, you send some
nice small messages to people to make them aware that you are
interested in them, and just WAIT. Soon you will get some good
least single and looking!
thing about online dating is that people advertising on these
sites are single and actively looking.
Now that may not sound like a big deal, but it
is very important! In real life, about 60-70% of the people you meet
are NOT single at any given moment, or not ready to date anyway (still
ending their previous relationships, generally not feeling well, etc.),
so your chances of meeting someone SINGLE and LOOKING are 1 in
3. So that guy who works in the office below you has a girlfriend
somewhere in New York, and you are getting unnecessarily excited about
him. So much energy in this world is wasted on asking out or getting
to know people, only to realize that they already have someone! In
online dating, the people are single and looking (there are
a small percentage of people who are lying-but we won't worry about
them....they exist in real life too, we all know too well...) and that
makes the process much more efficient. You are better off trying to
communicate with these people who are interested
in getting involved with someone.
be practical. In the end it doesn't really matter how you meet
people-whether in a bar, through acquaintances, or in a plane ride.
The Internet is just a very fast and efficient way, that's all.
Internet Dating is a godsend for single women
Even though we are a civilized world and women are
equal to men in many respects-it is still hard for a single woman, all
alone, all by herself, to go to a bar and have a drink and try to meet a guy. We are still
a male dominated society in this-a guy can go alone to
a bar or disco to meet women, but in most places, a woman can't do
that. She will be accosted by drunks all the time, labeled as loose,
or someone will make silly conclusions about her. That's why it is so
rare to find a woman all by herself sitting alone having a
drink at the bar, or in a nightclub with her drink, just hanging
Think of an online dating site like Match.com as an
ultimate bar for women-where a single woman can go with pride, announcing that
she is single and looking, with her preferences-with no drunks making
her life miserable, with no societal hang ups. In this sense
online dating profiles are really a godsend for single women, who
always have to find another woman or male friend to accompany them to
go to a bar or disco. They can now "advertise" all by themselves; with
good profiles, good photos, and what they are looking for.
For single women, online dating has opened up a door
which was non-existent before. From the comfort of their home, they
can meet men; see their photos, chat with them, call them etc. before